Tuesday, December 13, 2005

Getting adjusted

So...a quick update on our new additions. Both kids have been sick off and on since we got back so we have been running back and forth to the pediatrician's office but otherwise are doing well. We are settling in to a routine and John went back to work yesterday. Jacob has been teething the last several days and has experienced all the "fun" side effects of that. We have been using a combo of English and Russian words and Austin especially seems to be understanding more and more English. The only words he has so far are "no", "please"...which he says over and over in order to get an item, even if he can't have the item, "fork"...which comes out more like a not so nice word, "uh oh", "beep beep", "cheese"...which is one of his favorite foods, "mama", and "dada". He is constantly moving and keeps us on our toes. His favorite food so far is hot dogs but we are sure that we brought home the right child because he likes ice cream :). Jacob is still only babbling but his favorite thing to do is say "da-da-da" and hold both of his pointer fingers up....it is a site to see. He is a picky eater and we are trying to figure out which foods he will eat. His favorites so far are rice cereal and any type of pudding. They both love playing with their toys...Austin loves any "machina" (Russian for car) and Jacob's favorite toy still seems to be the drum we bought him in Russia. Austin is still pretty jealous of his younger brother but seems to be warming up to him. Several times today he brought him one of his toys and said "Brattick's" (Russian for "brother's") and just yesterday he ran over twice and kissed his brother on the head. We will post more pics soon. Hope everyone is doing well as the Christmas season is upon us. Love to all!

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Wednesday, December 7, 2005

Frozen Tundra





Ok. Its cold. Here are some much requested photos.

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Saturday, December 3, 2005

21 hours


The amount of travel time from Moscow to Denver (4 AM 1+1 AM Moscow Time).

We were greeted at the airport by John's family and Beth's parents. It was nice as they ushered us to our car. Car seats were a new experience for the boys. Neither liked them very much, but they secure the children very well.

We arrived home in time to feed and wash the boys and put them to bed. We followed about an hour later.

We think the best part was hour 8 out of 10 on the flight from Frankfurt to Denver. This is when Jacob decided to tantrum inconsolably. Can you imagine the looks of death we received from the other passengers... We guess we can travel anywhere with them now, just not too soon.

It was relatively smooth, but did have a couple of minor issues. All in all it worked out and now we are home... Praise God!

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Friday, December 2, 2005

Fog

Did you know that when it is really foggy planes cannot land or take-off?

We had been praying that we could get out of Volgograd on Thursday by plane so that we could make the appointment with the US embassy on Friday. I think that it was the foggiest that we ever saw the airport.

There was only one plane on the ground, a small puddle jumper. Yes, you know the kind, or perhaps you don't. We boarded from the rear and hand carried ALL of our luggage on board. It sat in the very front of the plane (big black bag, green bag, small roller board, backpack, Beth's carry-on, and a stroller), plus two kids.

We arrived safely in Moscow and were greated by our Moscow driver and case worker in Russia. They took us safely to our hotel, but not before Jacob decided to be car-sick. Projectile vomiting...

Isn't it nice to take a hot shower? Thats exactly what we did and went to bed.

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Wednesday, November 30, 2005

The best laid plans...

Well... The best laid plans of mice and men often go astray...

We picked up Jacob last night. We didn't know we were getting him until we left the hotel. So we had all of Austin's stuff with us... Ok no problem.

We arrived to find him on the rocking horse eating a bun. After meeting with the doctor to discuss his diet (minced meat anyone?), we finally were able to take him, in their cloths. Pick butterflies underneath with a blue sweater then yellow outer coat. We think the best part was the purple stocking hat (toboggan for those of you that are from the south) they put on his head.

We were off to buy several things from the local market. Formula, rice cereal, the yucky stuff. He didn't like his first bath at all. Not sure why but it was not his favorite thing.

We finally got him ready for bed, and Beth gave him a bottle. It was a good moment. We put him down and then waited for him to fall asleep (8 pm). Guess our schedule is changing.

We are doing well. Our next challenge is getting back to Moscow. It is often (always) rainy and foggy. This delays the flights. The problem is we need to be in Moscow before 10 am on Friday to get an appointment at the embassy. We were planning on leaving on Saturday, but this might change.

Prayers Answered:
1. The couple received their baby after the grandmother mysteriously resurfaced and attempted to get the daughter to claim the child. The next day she refused and the court granted the adoption decree to the couple. (MAJOR ANSWER TO PRAYER!)
2. Jacob is bonding well with both of us.

Please pray
1. It would be sunny tomorrow and we could leave by plane, on-time, and arrive,
on-time.
2 That Austin would bond with us
3. We will be able to communicate with them (especially Austin)
4. That our process would continue to be smooth.

We love you guys!

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Monday, November 28, 2005

One Step Closer

Today we got one step closer to bringing our boys home. We went to the court with our translator today to pick up the final copy of the court decree of the adoption as well as the boys' original birth certificates. We then took the birth certificates to the registrar's office where they will be destroyed and new birth certificates made with our names on them. Oh, all the paperwork :)
We had a good day with the boys today. Austin continues to be wild and crazy but seems to be beginning to understand rules and tries (at least on occasion) to follow them. Jacob seems to be bonding with us more and more each day and draws us in with his smile. We can see a little hint of his older brother in him as he does not like you to take his toys or crackers from him :).
Tomorrow is the big day...we get to pick Austin up from the orphanage. We decided to pick him up by himself for one night since we anticipate him to have the most difficulty with the transition from the orphanage to life with us. Please pray that the transition will be smooth and that he will understand what is going on and will be able to trust us. Please pray for us as we do not really know what to expect. He has been told he will be leaving "to go to America" with us but aren't exactly sure how much of this a 3 yr old actually understands. We will pick Jacob up on Wednesday and will have him in the hotel with us for 1 day before returning to Moscow. Your prayers are definitely coveted as we transition into life as a family. We will keep you updated and miss each of you and can not wait to return to the US!

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Wednesday, November 23, 2005

Birthday

Do you enjoy giving or receiving gifts at parties? I enjoy both, not sure which one I enjoy more...

We brought three 20x20x12 boxes of things for the kids. In two of these boxes were 15 winnie the pooh bears from toys R us. They are a bit larger (about 2' tall), we (or really Beth) got a really good deal!

Austin's birthday is today, he is 3. They celebrate the fall birthdays during this month so there were two birthdays, Austin's and another girl. We arrived early and brought the bears, a truck, bananas, oranges, apples, and sok (juice). We put two bears in the front of the class in a basket for the two children, the rest were hidden in a big sheet that was used as wrapping paper with a bow on top.

They came into the room to a train song, they were moving their arms like the arms of the locomotive moving in a circle. They all sat in their chairs, Austin was in the first (of course). They sang several more songs then presented the two with a plastic cake with candles on top. The intent was for both of the birthday kids to blow the candles out.

Austin blew them all out...

Then we presented Austin with the new machina (really that's car but it works for the truck) and bear. He was thrilled. We presented the little tivichka (girl) with the bear she was happy. Then the best part was when the entire package was opened and all the kids ran for the bears. In some cases the bears were longer than the children.

We returned to the group room where we ate our snack. I was able to video the room and the bedroom where he sleeps. It was great. We played with Austin in the music hall for about 15 minutes after the snack, then it was 10:25 (time to go outside). On come the 3 layers of clothing.

Beth took him outside while I signed a paper stating that we donated the bears to the kids. I went outside to find them walking, and Austin looking at some object on the ground. He is doing better about coming when called. Today Beth would give him a big hug when he returned.

Later he hauled of and hit another child with the truck he was carrying. The translator had left so I was left to discipline in a foreign language. Long story short we had a mini-meltdown.

Later that morning we took both boys for their passport photos. They both were very calm and watchful of what was going on. Austin especially liked riding in the machina.

Prayers are being answered. Our bonding seems to be improving and each boy shows a little progress each day of relating to us more and more. We saw that while Austin is independent he does feel. He is also very aggressive (for aggressive sake) and we need to help him with this.

Please continue to hold us in your prayers:
1. That another couple we know her would receive their court decree tomorrow (there is something strange going on and they are not being told the whole story).
2. They will continue to bond to us
3. We will be able to communicate with them (especially Austin)
4. That our process would continue to be smooth.

We love you guys.

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Tuesday, November 22, 2005

Time out for the official grownup

Ok. Many of you know this point, some have yet to cross the threshold. Its the point at which you can no longer truly call yourself a kid and now are an official grown-up. For me this happened today.

Our day usually begins at 10:45 where we catch a ride with our driver to the orphanage. Once there Austin's group is usually outside for their daily walk. We walk around the courtyard until we find him. Sometimes we walk with his group other times just with him. Usually it involves some just the three of us time.

During this time Austin likes to play a game called "I am going to push your boundaries as far as I can". Usually he walks where he isn't supposed to go. Or he runs away and wants to be chased, etc.

We come inside where we pull at least 3 layers of clothing off of him, rather he takes it off himself because there is no helping him. We then go into a music room where we play for some time.

This is a special music room, complete with the stern but caring music teacher. Those who went to Berthoud Elementary, visions of Mrs. Eggbert the art teacher, come to mind. He isn't allowed to touch anything in the room without the permission of the teacher; he knows this.

We bring a backpack everyday with various items, including several toys, camera, video recorder, and the like. He usually tries to pick up as many has he can, until two days ago where we said that he could only play with one toy at a time.

He plays for about 20 minutes then returns to his group for lunch. He returns after lunch for about 15 or 20 minutes more. During the break we spoke with the translator and music teacher. Among other things said the music teacher had told us that another couple came and set very specific rules and was strict with their child and it seems to work well. Thus far we have been afraid discipline because we didn't know what, if any the response from the staff would be.

Too late.

When he returned I explained to him that he wasn't to touch anything in the room except for the toys we brought, AND he could only play with one toy at a time. The consequences for not listening to me would be sitting on a chair for a period of time.

Test1: Play with only one toy.

Austin begin to play with one of the toys then he picked up another without putting the toy back. To the chair he went, for 1 minute. He cried and wondered "what did I do?" I explained why he was there and that he shouldn't do it again, AND that I loved him very much. (parental slip number one, you know I do this because I love you, etc)

Test2: Touch other things in the room

Austin began to wonder around the room and into one of the corners. He cut his eyes toward me then looked down to a plate of shiny moroccos. He pick them up and I stood up. It drop just about as fast, then he was on the chair. This time he wouldn't sit there so (and this parental slip was a bit subtler) I said that he could sit in the chair for 1 minute or return to his group. He said no to both... wait for it please... That's when I said either he was to choose or I would choose for him... (slip number two)

So it would seem that I have become my parents. At least I have said things I vowed to never say and we know that this slippery slope is a dangerous one.

So now, I am an official grownup.

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Sunday, November 20, 2005

Run around in circles

Today we traveled to the orphanage to visit the boys. Austin was outside with his group. Today the care taker (one who takes some interest) was showing the kids all kinds of things outside. Trees, birds, and machines. There was much interest. Austin recognized us and came up and grabbed each of our hands, as we hold hands when we walk.

We did a little less chasing today, this care taker seems to have his number, he responds to her. We played some then he wanted to be pushed in the swing. So we swung some. After about 10 minutes of this it began to get a bit colder. His class was returning inside so we went in.

We were allowed some time to play with Austin by himself in the music room. On every other day there has been other adopting families there playing with their children. It was good to have the room to ourselves.

Austin played with a new toy we purchased, a horn that plays different songs. It will of course not be making the trip back:). He allowed Beth to hold him because she would sit him on her legs then bounce them to the beat of the current song. It was a neat moment.

Later he started the "I am going to test the two of you and see what I can get away with". He begin to walk away and be into everything that he shouldn't be into. When ever he is spoken to in Russia to not do something, then he responds. He seems to know that we cannot communicate well with him, so he just continues on.

He left to eat lunch and Jacob arrived. He seems much better today. He was more awake and his body didn't seem so sick. (Prayer answered!) He played with the stackable cups we purchased at the "department store" across from the hotel. It was good. He vocalized some more with either da for yes or da for da. (not sure) Austin returned after lunch and found the three of us there.

He came in and just sat down near us. We had our translator explain that Jacob was his brother. I am not sure how happy he was to learn that he was going to have to share these "parents". He figured out how to put the cups back in the right order then he decided to test once again. He wondered around the room and found these plastic "wiffle" type balls. He picked them up one by one and put them into a play structure (house). Did we mention that the music teacher is somewhat of a grump and DOES NOT like her stuff touched by the children?

We told him no, but he continued. Our translator told him no, but he continued. He would often cut his eyes at us to see what our reaction was. We then began to ignore. He finally tired of testing and came back over for some more interaction. He picked up the camera and we told him no and to put it down, he then dropped the camera, picked it up and walked out of his way to give it to me rather than Beth (the one closest to him).

Long story short, oh my! It seems that we have a child that is every bit of 3 years old. Additionally he has been raised (and praised) for being independent. The hard part about all of this is we need for him to attach to us as parents... He left for his nap and we were left with Jacob.

Jacob played for a while longer. He enjoyed the cups then he made some motion like he wanted to stand. He grabbed onto both of my fingers (with a stackable cup in his left hand) and we walked in circles. He did very well. He seemed more alert and interactive.

We return tomorrow for another installment.

We are realizing that this is going to be hard. We have the parent aspects but specifically with Austin we believe we may encounter some bonding issues with him.

We have been told that a week from tomorrow we will received the court decree of our adoption. At that point we "own" the children and can take them if we wish. We will need to stay around a couple of days to get the various documents in order for travel. We are now struggling with if/when we should take them. Our hotel here would work but be difficult to have two children in our room. It would be good to get them on our own terms but may require us to be up all night and have one less night of sleep before the return trip home... ugg!

Please keep us in your prayers. They have been seen and I can testify that Jesus is not far from us. We see him move daily
1. Jacob seems more healthy today
2. Austin recognized us
3. We are resting
4. Several of the adopting families attended a church today. This was my prayer that I would have the opportunity to attend church here and hopefully next weekend I will be able to go.

Please pray that
1. We could fly back to Moscow (not ride the train)
2. Our return trip home would be quiet and uneventful
3. Austin will listen to us and trust us
4. Austin will attach quickly to Beth and myself
5. Jacob will attach quickly to Beth and myself
6. We would have wisdom regarding when we should take them from the orphanage.
7. We would have confidence in our decisions

We love you guys and covet your prayers over us.

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Saturday, November 19, 2005

Passing the time

We thought we would post today since we never got it done yesterday. We have officially entered a virtually constant state of boredom (other than the short time we get to see the boys each day). Yesterday we were able to see the boys for a total of 2 hours, basically an hour for each boy. Unfortunately the boys have different eating/sleeping schedules and so we are unable to see them together. Yesterday, we spent an hour chasing Austin around outside on the playground. He would look at us and then run away and wait to see if we would chase him. He is definitely mischievious. Most of the time, when we called him, he would ignore us and keep running. Then, I noticed that it looked like he was trying to pull his pants down (while we were on the playground). I asked him if he needed to go to the bathroom and he said "yes." So, I told him to come to me and we would go to the bathroom. He came immediately without reservation. So, we know he at least will come when he needs something :). Jacob remains very watchful of everything around him. We did get a cry out of him yesterday when we tried to take the wet wipe box away from him. He remains quite weak and appears tired; however, we have found that when he wants something (ie a specific toy) he will work to get it. Yesterday he pulled himself up to stand and moved a few steps holding on in order to get the toy.
Today, as I mentioned above, has been pretty much an uneventful day. We didn't get to see the boys today as you can only visit 1 time per weekend. So, we will go back tomorrow. We slept in. We seem to be sleeping a lot. We ate breakfast at the cafe below our hotel and then did a little walking to the grocery store, etc. John has been doing some computer work for his job this afternoon. Well, hope everyone is well. We miss you guys and can't wait to bring our boys home to meet each of you!

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Thursday, November 17, 2005

WE ARE PARENTS!

We are back at the hotel and heading to bed and thought we would give everyone a update as we know many of you have been praying fervently for us. We had a successful court hearing today. Praise God! The judge and prosecutor were amazingly "friendly" by Russian standards and we even saw smiles on both of their faces during the court proceedings which is pretty rare from what we have heard. We were told the court session might last as long as 4 hours; however, we were only in the court room( it was actually the judge's office) for a little over an hour. They asked us many questions but we were prepared to answer all of them. Afterwards, we were able to go to lunch with our facilitator, translator, the inspector at the orphanage, and the social worker of the orphanage, all of whom which were present in the court room and spoke on our behalf. It was evident from these individuals and with the judge & prosecutor that the interests of the boys were truly top priority. We thank each of you for your prayers throughout this process and continue to covet your prayers as we travel back in 10 days and transition to life as a larger family. Your prayers have truly been seen and felt and God's hand has been evident to us here already. We will keep you updated. We will go to see the boys again in the morning and need to get a little sleep! Love to you all!

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Wednesday, November 16, 2005

Court


We arrived in Volgograd at 915am. The train ride was roughly 20 hours long. It was an interesting experience. We rode in our own compartment with two bench style bunks on either side. There was a TV with one station that was playing a badly dubbed version of Overboard. If we listened carefully we could understand the English being spoken.

We were served dinner at 430 pm, it consisted of a broth based soup, fried chicken, french fries, salad, and a pepsi. It wasn't bad but early so we were a bit hungary come this morning.

We traveled to the central baby house where we say the boys for the first time in two months. They look good. Austin has grown bigger and seems excited (in a mild sense) to see us. Jacob smiled at Beth. Both look good, however Jacob stills seams "sickly". We will find out what he has when we return?

Later we spoke with our facilitator regarding court and all that it involves. We attend court tomorrow at 1030 am Local (EST + 8 hrs). We are nervous as we are excited. We must give a short speech followed by a round of questions from the prosecutor and judge. We are extremely nervous about this one... Please hold in fervent prayer,

1. Court would go smoothly
2. We would have a successful finding of the court (IA we can adopt the boys)
3. We would be confident in Jesus and that His spirit would provide us with the words to say and they would be heard by ears of wisdom and discernment
4. The judge and prosecutor would find favor on us.
5. Jacob would be healthy
6. Smooth trip home.

We love you guys, and thank you for standing with us!

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Tuesday, November 15, 2005

Tverskaya Hello

We have safely arrived at the Tverskaya hotel in Moscow. Our trip was smooth and we had no real problems. Our flight arrived late into Moscow, just after a large plan from China had arrived. The result was an hour and a half wait in the passport line to get into the country. Of course, we chose the slowest line of all 10, the one next to us cycled at least twice before we went through.

We retrieved ALL of our bagage (6 pieces in all) and headed out to find our ride to the hotel. She was standing towards the back and holding a sign written in pink highlighter... Non-the less we found her and later our driver.

We arrived at the hotel, showered, ordered room service, and went to bed.

We travel by train to Volgograd today. Should be an experience for 10 hours. More rest and studing for our court apperance.

Take care we love you!

Please pray for us:

1. travel mercies and saftey in travel
2. Our court apperance that we would be calm and have the words for the questions asked.
3. For our return trip home, that it would be quiet, smooth, and uneventful.

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Sunday, November 13, 2005

The Next big adventure

Well, we are on the eve of our next big adventure. We depart for Russia in the morning. We currently are living in that tension of excitement and nervousness. We have some big travel days ahead. We arrive in Volgograd later in the week and our court date will occur. Please keep us in your prayers.

Please pray
1. That we would be rested and not suffer from the effects of long travel
2. We would be kind to one another and others on our journey
3. We would find favor in the eyes of the court
4. Our judge would have wisdom and discernment in the proceeding
5. We would have the answers to the judges questions
6. We would be protected from evil

We love you guys!

John and Beth

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Friday, November 11, 2005

A little slice of Russia, Right Here

Take 1:
We have been making last minute preparations to travel to Russia to pick up our two boys. We have several pieces of our dossier that are set to expire within days of our court date. So we decided to renew them just in case something happened in Volgograd where our court date was delayed enough to invalidate the pieces.

We when through the gyrations of signature, notarization, and apostille. Later our local home-study agency told us that Colorado had removed the $2 / document fee for overnight apostilles. Beth returned to pick up the paper and questioned if we could be refunded the fee for the apostille because of the policy change.

The response was that they had indeed changed the policy but as of the 8th of Nov it was suspended until the 21st of Nov because the computer system was not working with the change and could not be updated until then.

Policy change held up because of technology.

Take 2:
Beth's mom called her at work and said that there was a problem with the last copy of our marriage certificate. It seems that the Sec. of State in Raleigh had no record of receiving or sending the certificate to us.

She was on her way to Raleigh to get another copy apostilled and later she Fedex the copy to us. The next morning Beth received the Fedexed license and that afternoon we received the mailed copy that the Sec. of State had no record of sending...

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Plane vs. Train

Post to a Volgograd adoption group:

Are you guys going to Volgograd by plane or by train? We found out today
that we have to travel to Volgograd by train....we still don't know how we
will come back.

Can't wait to see you guys!

Beth

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Thursday, November 3, 2005

Advice for the travelers

Thought you would like some insight to the questions we are asking so here is our post to a group we belong to and their responses:

From: Beth B
Date: Wed Nov 2, 2005 7:38 pm
I have lots of questions for those of you who have done all th is before. How many outfits did you take? Is there a place to do laundry or have it done at the hotel? What kinds of food did you take for your kids..we are adopting a 15 month old and a 3 yr old. Should we have boots for the 3 yr old? Realistically, what are the chances of having the 10 day wait waived? How much can you visit the kids during the 10 day wait? What should we wear to court?

Anyone willing to answer, it would be much appreciated :)

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More detail please?

It would seem that details on the current situation are desired. Well, sorry for the lack of such we have just been trying to get ready to go attend our court date, that is THE adoption of our children. So what does this mean? You should see our guest room, or rather the bed. Its piled high with diapers, toys, medicine, clothes, and various other child related items...

We are doing well. Excited, nervous, and the like. Our court date is on the 17th so we will travel on the 13th arriving in Volgograd on the 15th after one night stay in Moscow. It is cold there, the average high temp for Nov in Moscow is 32F. Volgograd is a bit warmer... I don't know the averages but it is somewhere between 32F and 45F.

We really love each of you walking with us. I know we say that a ton, but it is true. We would not be where we are without you. Please continue to lift us up in prayer. Please pray:

Praise
1. We have received our court date

Request:
1. We would have a judge with wisdom, discernment, kindness, strength
2. We would find favor with the judge and prosecutor
3. Our 10 day waiting period would be "waived"
4. We would have a miraculously quiet trip home

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Monday, October 31, 2005

Court Date !!!!

... Praise God! We have received a court date for the 17th of November. Wow! J&B!

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Thursday, October 27, 2005

Preliminary Hearing Take Three

It seems like the judge in our region has decided to postpone our preliminary hearing until early next week. How thoughtful of him or her. We are really struggling with this and it just seems like we face obstacles at every turn. Ugg! Please pray for us... We really need it.

1. That the preliminary hearing would take place on Monday
2. That we would have a court date one week from when the hearing takes place
3. That we would not loose hope

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Monday, October 24, 2005

Preliminary Court Date (take two)

We are currently waiting for our second preliminary hearing. It has been scheduled for 27 October. During this hearing the judge determines if our court file is complete, making sure all documents are acceptable. During our first hearing all the documents were fine except the release letter. The release letter is sent by the Ministry of Education in Moscow to the regional judge stating that a child may be adopted. For what ever reason the judge was not content with the letter that was sent. So another letter was requested and hopefully this will lead to a complete court file. Please note the delays have been judicial by nature and in the control of the Volgograd system.

After this hearing the judge will assign a court date for our adoption. This particular judge has been known to assign court dates within one or two weeks from the hearing. So, this may imply that we will be spending Thanksgiving in Volgograd.




We are doing well overall. We have had many friends and family shower us with gifts for our newest additions. (Thank you!) When a child arrives to a family by birth several of the items can be purchased over a period of months, for example electrical outlet plugs are not required for a new born. So we have been very blessed as many of the critical items have been given to us!

It seems that Jesus wants us to trust him. He wants to grow our faith and He desires to be apart of our life. Two recent sermons have really spoken to us:

Today the sermon was about asking prayer. Jesus promises to give whatever we ask when we abide in Him, (John 15:7). The challenge was to pray specifically. How often do we pray "safe" prayer that we have some reasonable assurance that it will be answered. Instead one might pray for a court date one week from the preliminary hearing, now that would be specific.

Last week, we were in Greensboro and the sermon was about how Pivotal Circumstances ignite our faith (Luke 8:22-25). We believe that this is a pivotal circumstance for us. Do we really trust Jesus with our life? Do we really believe that He knows what is best for us, in all circumstances? Why do we spend so much time and energy attempting to control that which cannot be controlled?

Thank you for walking with us in the journey! We love you all. Please continue to pray for us...

Please pray:
1. That we would have a court date one week from the preliminary hearing
2. We would have continue to trust Jesus, no matter the circumstances.
3. That John would have enough vacation to travel and stay at home for two weeks when we return

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Monday, September 26, 2005

Who said Carolina blue was ok?

If organized chaos is a real thing, then we are living there. Beth
recently spoke with our coordinator in Virginia who informed us that
there might possibly be a chance that we could maybe be back in
Russia before the end of October, potentially... ok.

Really we have received a good word from Virginia that they are
pushing for us to return to Russia before the end of October. This
is mostly because ALL of our original paperwork, (We know that you
are confused as to which paperwork we are speaking but this is from
the first round, out of three, we have done) is set to expire in
November. Some of the paperwork depends on other government
agencies, so it would be ideal if this didn't happen.

For this to happen we need to be assigned a court date in late
October. I know to many of you outside the super-secret-in-the-know-
adoption-circle our journey has seemed complicated rought with
uncertainty and slow. However, it is actually been quite smooth.
Really this is a testament to God's faithfulness to answer the
prayers of His people. We both firmly believe that if we didn't have
a prayer covering than much of what has occurred wouldn't have.
Thank you! Please continue on-ward in this journey as we near the
next big hurdle, receiving a court date.

Other major answers to prayer include the provision of the financial
resources to make this a possibility. The up-front cost of
international adoption is prohibitive, however God has provided the
means for us to meet the bulk of the expense. PTL!




We have finished painting the boy's room.
Benny Moore's Grandma's Sweater
(Carolina blue), with horizontal strips: two, thinner Fiesta Yellow
(bright yellow) and one, thicker Feel the Energy (lime green) in the
middle of the room. Major answer to prayer that this was completed
before we received a court date. Of course my brother-in-law will
not think that is a major prayer answered, as he would have preferred
a NC State red as the majority color.

We have purchased furniture for the room at a discount (used in a
model home, received nearly 70% off). We have discovered Ross, TJ
Max, Nordstrom Rack, JC Penney, Osh-Kosh Outlet, Carter's Outlet,
Gymboree (ok not really), Target, and Kohls (!!!) are great places to
purchase clothing at a discount, given the right sale.

We continue to see God refine the two of us in this process. We
started out thinking, really assuming that we would have a couple of
birth children then we would adopt. We never considered that
adoption would be pursued first and birth children a hope for the
future. We are convinced that He is in control of our life. He has
our best interest at heart. He knows what the perfect timing will be
for us. And though we are not there yet, we have a glimmer into that
state of being where one is content.

While we don't know what a pregnancy is like, we can somewhat related
to the process. Here is our "adoption process is harder than an
actual preganancy" case: we have been pursuing the children for
nearly 12 months, insurance does not cover the cost, we have filled
out three rounds of paperwork (all signed, notarized, apostilled,
FedExed, and translated), our labor consists of traveling across two
continents, one ocean, and 10 time-zones with two children that
barely know us, don't speak any English, may be teething, have
diarrhea, a parasite or two, and dealing with the United Airlines
flight attendants... This is all to say God has been doing a number
on our hearts in bonding to these two little ones. We are very excited!

We love you. Thank you for being apart of this journey with us.
Please continue to pray for our journey!

Please pray
o for a court date in October
o provision for the adoption expenses
o protection from evil
o strength in our marriage
o provision of enough vacation time for John, (the trip and 2-3 weeks
when we return)
o Austin and Jacob would bond quickly to us
o return trip would be miraculously smooth and quiet
o patience, strength, and understanding of each other and these boys


Take care,

John and Beth (nearly parents)

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Sunday, September 18, 2005

Insight from Thurs. Russian Delegation to Washington

This was a post from a chat group we belong to. Makes for an interesting story.

From: Mitzie T.
Date: Sun, 18 Sep 2005 16:40:22 -0400

The reception was hosted by the Joint Council on International Children's Services. There were 8 Russian Delegates in attendance as well as, Tom Atwood (NCFA), Lee Allen (his assistant), representatives from Shoahannah's Hope, Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute, a handful of adoptive families and our beloved Leslie from AWAA. Susan from AWAA was also present.

I am telling you this so that you will know how hard AWAA is working on behalf of your family and mine. I did not see any other agency represented at this reception. After watching Leslie at work, I am convinced she attended this reception to speak up on behalf of all AWAA's families. Leslie speaks Russian and was able to communicate clearly with some very key officials. She and I spoke with the man from the Duma that I've listed below, Anatoliy. Let me just say that after speaking
with him, I am not afraid to face a judge in court. He was not a happy man. Leslie was agressive with her questioning yet polite. It was obvious to me that he was not digging the conversation. She asked him to look at our baby book and at first he refused. We talked for a few more minutes and then he agreed to look at Aleena's book. He commented about her blue eyes matching mine and then asked me (in English) a few questions that caught me off guard such as Aleena's medical diagnosis, how much we paid in the region, why I wanted more children, etc. He then asked me, "Are you a nice family?" Oh my... Leslie then pushed him to answer questions as to whether or not OO and LSSS will receive accreditation. He was clearly not happy with the line of questioning but our advocate just kept her composure and pushed on. I was truly amazed.

I spoke with Tom Atwood and his assistant, Lee. This was after the delegation departed for further meetings/dinner. He and his team were key in stopping the moratorium. He is still meeting with officials to avoid the 30 reaccredited agencies from losing their licensing due to "infringements" as stated by Sergey Fridinsky. Fridinsky is pushing to revoke these licenses and Tom Atwood is trying to find an alternative to this line of reasoning. The MOE was supposed to discuss accreditation issues last week but will continue to do so this coming week. We are praying that LSSS and OO will receive their accreditation without further delay.

You should know that the Duma man (Anatoliy) was looking for assurances from our government that no other children will be harmed. The case in the news lately of children being placed in cages has outraged him. It makes Americans look like animals. Anatoliy was also clear that if there were any more abuse cases, Russia would "shut down". Those are the words from one man. He was highly irritated that there weren't any Senators or Congressmen/women to speak to him at the time. I have no idea what the expectations were from both sides....I just know He is expecting alot from our government when he doesn't require the same from his own. I am told that over 3,000 children a year are killed by their parents in Russia. It is alarming that the finger continues to be pointed in our direction when their own country is in a desperate situation.

Our family then stayed behind to speak with a Russian family that lives not too far from us. This couple has 3 birth children and has adopted two older girls from Russia. They are Christians. Would you believe that Eric and this man knew a mutual friend that attends our church?? God was clearly connecting our families in a special way. The husband's name is Elijah.
Their family and ours gathered in a circle in the middle of the Senate Hart building and proclaimed God the victor over all things. We were tearful and pleaded with God on behalf of all of you. It was one of the most amazing times of my life. Although I listened to the hurtful things the Duma man spoke about, I knew that our God was greater than anything he could do to us.

Please do not read this and walk away defeated. Read these words and pray for specifics now that you know where the hearts of some of these men are. Pray against this evil, pray that hearts would soften, and please pray for these people specifically:

Mr. Anatoliy Vasilyevich Baboshkin, Deputy Federal Duma, Moscow
Sergey Fridinsky, Deputy Prosecutor General of the Russian Federation
Tom Atwood, President of the National Council For Adoption
Staff of AWAA

It is interesting that when I looked at the FRUA page, there was a post from a woman that had attended this same reception. She walked away with a far different picture than I did. You see, she has already brought her children home. She spoke about the reception being nice with food and an open bar. She went on to say how nice it was to see the children from Perm
and have a picture taken with everyone.

I went to the reception knowing the battle would be great. I left there knowing our God was greater than the battle. It was also planted deep in my heart this sentiment: I do not know what tomorrow holds but I know the Holder of tomorrow!!!

I pray that you hang on to the One Who holds tomorrow. If it is His desire that we press on towards Russia, He will pave the way.

Blessings to each of you,

Mitzie

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Saturday, September 10, 2005

The Duma

All,

Just wanted to inform you of a major answer to prayer. The duma turned down the amendment to impose a temporary moratorium on the adoption of Russian children from America. Praise God!

The next significant event connected to our adoption is The Council on Accreditation meeting on Thursday, September 15. They will decide which agencies will be reaccredited to move forward with processing international adoptions. Two of the umbrella agencies that our agency works under are expectantly waiting for the decisions which will be made by this council. Please pray for these meetings on the 15th.

Thank you so much for walking with us!

Love,

John and Beth

State Duma tells government to protect children adopted by foreigners

09/09/2005 15:53

MOSCOW, September 9 (RIA Novosti) - The government must take measures to protect Russian children adopted by foreigners, Russia's lower chamber of parliament said in a statement Friday.

"Parental violence against adopted children has become more frequent," the State Dua's statement said.

In the United States, 13 adopted Russian children have died from parental violence, including an 8-year-old boy who died of starvation in August.

The deputies expressed their concern that they learn about these facts only from press reports.

"Other instances of physical or psychological violence against Russian children, citizens of Russia, could be unknown," the deputies said.

The State Duma is also concerned over the fate of about 64,000 Russian children adopted by foreigners and living outside Russia. The deputies say the adoption process is becoming increasingly commercial and criminal.

They are asking the government to ensure that orphaned children be placed in Russian families as a priority.

The State Duma turned down an amendment by Deputy Nina Ostanina from the KPRF faction to impose a temporary moratorium on the adoption of Russian children by the citizens of those countries where Russian children died at the hands of their adoptive parents.

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Thursday, September 8, 2005

Paperwork part two

All,

We trust this email reaches you in good spirits and you are doing well. We are just nearing the completion of our second round of paperwork for the adoption. It should complete the court documents that will be presented when we arrive to adopt the boys. We have told many of you of the political climate in Russia, and some we have missed. We will try to recap the basics here.

It has been reported that at least 13 adopted Russia children have been killed in the US by their adoptive parents. The three most recent cases (IL, NC, and MD) have been publicized widely within Russia. This has cause a political outrage towards Americans adopting russian children. Controversy flow in Russia over the issue but fundamentally there are other forces at work that may not be in the best interest of the children. One senior Duma lawmaker called for a moratorium on US citizens adopting children in Russia.

The Ministry of Education (the group who oversees adoption) made a statement against the moratorium but for law changes regarding independent adoption and home study content. Recent reports indicate that a desire to place a moratorium on independent adoptions and to insist that "bilateral agreements on inter-state cooperation regarding child adoption would be the most effective instrument of protection for Russian children adopted by foreigners." We interpret this to imply a desire for an international treaty.

This option would effectively create a moratorium on US adoptions in Russia because the US has already signed into law the Intercountry Adoption Act of 2000, the US implementation of the Hague Convention on International Adoption. "The United States has signed the Hague Convention but has not yet ratified. Ratification will occur when the instruments of ratification are deposited at the Hague." It is unlikely that another treaty would be signed.

So again we are at the point of total helplessness. So we are asking you to cover this situation in prayer. Specifically, the draft parliamentary inquiry will be review at a session of the Duma on September 9.

Please pray that
wisdom and discernment would prevail on the part of the Russia leaders
the bilateral agreement would be dropped from the draft
the lawmakers would act in the best interest of the Russia children
the gates of adoption would open wide for those waiting for children from Russia
those working on our behalf in Russia would be protected
our paperwork would be complete and nothing else would be asked for
we could complete our adoption before year end
we would have peace throughout the process

We love you all and thank you for walking with us during this journey.

John and Beth

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Monday, August 29, 2005

Pictures for Everyone

All,

It has occurred to me that we (ok, I) forgot to send a couple of
photos of the little ones. We have attached them here.

John and Beth

(The pictures cannot be posted on the blog at this time)

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Thursday, August 18, 2005

Dr. Zivago... oh never mind.

We have been in Vologograd for the last day. Its hot here and there isn't much air conditioning. The shower in our hotel room is, well interesting (we will send you a picture). Nontheless we are marching on.

We received a match for two boys and later traveled to the orphanage where they are located. We spent some time with each of them, and the long and the short of it is, we have a match.

More details later. Thank you for praying for us, please continue to do so. We covet and appreciate each one of you and the work you are doing on our behalf.

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Wednesday, August 17, 2005

From Russia with Love.


We arrived yesterday at noon and promptly slept off the trip (for about 4 hours). We are safe and off to visit red square before traveling to our region later today. (In-country flights are always an ... experience:)

Thank you for praying and please continue to do so.

We love you guys

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Friday, August 12, 2005

Adoption Update Response

Hey everyone! Thanks for all the prayers, encouragement, emails, and phone calls we have received from you guys. You guys are awesome!

The good news is that we received our visas today and should be heading to Russia as planned. The bad news is that we just got word from our adoption coordinator that the Duma in Russia (kind of like our Senate) is meeting on Sept. 5 to discuss enacting a moratorium on adoptions in Russia. What does this mean for us??

Since Russia is a two trip adoption country, a moratorium would obviously keep us from going on our second trip to bring the children home. At this point, no one knows if a moratorium would be for 2 months or 6 months or how long it would be and how it would affect families already in the adoption process (ie not those families still waiting for referrals).

At this point, our coordinator has told us to definitely expect a longer wait between trips 1 and 2. The wait is normally about 3 months but a moratorium would obviously make this a much lengthier process. So, all that said, please keep us in your prayers.

As mentioned earlier, please pray for discernment while we are there. In addition, please pray that God would protect our hearts, that he would help us to trust Him completely despite the negatives, and finally please pray that a moratorium would not be put into effect as there are many families in our same position.

Thanks so much for being so supportive!

Love ya,

Beth and John

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Tuesday, August 9, 2005

Update...

Here is an update to the current situation we received:

Again, we are saddened to hear yet of another potential case of abuse of a child adopted from Russia. For more information concerning the case, please visit here. It breaks our hearts to know that anyone would harm a precious child entrusted to them through adoption.

To date, thirteen children who have been adopted from Russia have died. In each case, a parent was either accused or convicted of the murder. These high profile cases, at least three in the last six months, have slowed down adoptions by 1/3 this year compared to the number of adoptions in 2004. Since 1992, just over 44,000 children have been adopted to US families. To read more concerning the history of delays please go to this.

The JCICS shares some very good tips on how to wait with grace and patience as we weather the changes in adoption policies in Russia. Please go to this to gain some helpful information. We understand that the delays which have occurred in the past, and perhaps which will be applied in the future, are frustrating since so much is out of our agencies control and depend on decisions made by the Ministry of Education and Science. Currently, only 27 of the over 90 agencies working in Russia have been reaccredited.

It is our desire to bring your children as quickly as possible, therefore we are looking at creative solutions to partner with other agencies as reaccredidation delays press on.

As Christians, we also have a very valuable resource of encouragement and empowerment through the adoption journey, that is prayer. Please take a moment to read the devotional and pray for the children who are delayed from being united with their parents at this time.

Praying for your family today,

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Adoption Update

We have been really slack lately about keeping everyone up to date on our Russian adoption, so here is one update. We were out of town last week at the beach in NC with my family. We received a call from our adoption coordinator while we were at the beach telling us that they wanted us to travel to Russia on Aug 15th.

We came back early from our vacation and are getting everything weneed to get done before we go. We will be in Russia Aug 15-20 and possibly a little longer depending on what happens while we are there. This trip will be to receive referrals of children and we will go back on a second trip to adopt the children. There is a possibility that we could not find a child we want to adopt while weare there. It will be an emotionally intense time.

Please pray that we would have safety as we travel and that we wouldbe given discernment in the referral process. Our prayer is that God would be glorified no matter what the outcome and we would not beoverwhelmed by circumstances, etc. We will keep you guys updated and appreciate your prayers!

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Saturday, August 6, 2005

The call

On Wednesday, July 28, Leslie, our adoption coordinator, phoned us at work via a conference call. We had been told that we would know a match had occurred when our coordinator places a conference call to both spouses. We did not receive a match, however we were told that we had been give the opportunity to travel blind to our region: Volgograd, Russia.

Traveling blind entails traveling without a specific match to a child. This means that when one arrives in the region a match is made at the Ministry of Education where the prospective parents then travel to the orphanage and decide if the child is the right one for their family. The benefit of doing it this way is that there is very little time between match and visitation. You actually see the child very quickly. The down side is that one is not guaranteed a child. And the worst case is not finding a child.

Two days later, (Friday) we decided, after some thought and prayer, we would travel blind; at this point we believed that more than likely this decision would not matter. We heard through several sources that recent law changes in the Duma would make it impossible to adopt in Russia without working through an accredited agency. The umbrella agency our agency works through was previously accredited and is in "good" standing to become re-accredited. However, has yet to be re-accredited.

Two cases in the US, (one in Illinois the other in North Carolina), involving the death of an adopted child by their parent resulted in a delay in issuing accreditations by the Moscow prosecutor. The prosecutor, facing political pressure delayed issuing accreditations to the second group of agencies working in Russia.

We were told that traveling blind would most likely not happen. However Leslie told us she would be looking into the issue further and determine what "really" was going on.

On Monday, July 25, we heard word that the region we were working in was "unaffected" by the law changes and we could travel as an independent on our first trip. So here we go again. On Thursday, July 28 we had a conference call with Leslie and the Eastern Europe coordinator, Debbie. The purpose was to understand the risk in blind travel. We asked if traveling would occur soon so we would know if our yearly trip to a North Carolina beach would need to be cancelled. We were told to go ahead and travel because Leslie would be on vacation and the soonest we would hear on travel dates would be after she returned (August 8th).

We made plans to travel and arrived at the beach on August 2, at about four in the morning. Usually it takes one or two days to completely relax and be absorbed by the sunshine, ocean air, and lazy atmosphere.

Two days later, August 4, Beth was awakened (granted it was 10 am) by a phone call from Debbie who indicated that we would need to travel to Moscow on the 16th of August. The only catch was that the individual who would walk our Visa application through the Russian embassy was leaving on vacation on the 6th and would require our application the next day if we were to receive it before our intended travel dates.

We called our travel agent, Cathy, and asked her to make reservations for the trip.

Have you ever tried to find a computer with internet access, a place to obtain passport style photos, money orders, and a Fedex drop location in an area designed for relaxing and escaping such devices? The first problem was our application and our passports were waiting at home for our return. We coordinated with the facilitator in Maryland that two packages would be arriving: one containing our passports, the other containing the money orders, passport photos, and visa applications.

Our friends, Mike and Kate, were house/dog sitting for us and graciously agreed to send the passports to the facilitator. Kate sent the completed applications, still saved on our computer, to our email address. We found the Brunswick Business Center down the road about 5 miles from where we stay. We attempted to download the completed applications. The business center did not allow Hotmail attachments to be downloaded.

We downloaded the original application from the Russian embassy site. Over the next hour, Mike relayed over the phone the information in the completed application. We complete the application and printed it. We needed to pay the business center in cash, cash we did not have. So we found our bank's ATM, (so as to avoid those fees), returned to the center, and paid.

About a block down the street, we found a Walgreens that provides passport photos. We had our visa photos taken and then we needed to find a branch of our bank in the area. We drove 20 minutes to the location where the bank was and then another 20 minutes to the new location. There we negotiated a free Fedex envelope with the receptionist (they are always free), waited in the teller line (for a while), and walked out with three money orders for the two visas and facilitator.

We put the items in the envelope and drove 30 minutes to a town in South Carolina where the Fedex ship center was located. We dropped off the envelope and headed home to shower and get ready for a trip to Wilmington for dinner. We called Cathy back to confirm the trip reservations.

Back at the ranch John had a mild panic attack because he forgot a from that was required for all males entering Russia. With a quick call to Debbie (remember Leslie is on vacation), we determined that the form was no longer needed and we could resume our vacation.

We left the beech on Saturday, August 6th, at 8 am and boarded a plane for home 10 hours later. Three days early.

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Wednesday, July 27, 2005

Volgograd

Here are some blurbs from the FRUA website concerning Volgograd. Although these are sketchy notes, they do give an accurate picture of what does go on in the region.

“I know of two families for whom the Volgograd judge asked for extra paperwork when IN court. This necessitated a return to the US to complete the additional paperwork and then go back for the new court date. Since the 10 days was not waived and it was 10 business days, they came home to wait that out also. So a 4 trip adoption!”

“For Volgograd (10 business day wait not waived), had to get a large number of documents (this was in addition to/after our prefile and submission of dossier). Can't remember them all, but here's what I do remember: FBI and state fingerprint checks (even though ours had not expired), new (yet again--3rd or 4th time) medicals, new employment letters (3rd time), new mortgage letters, new certified copies of house deed, new (2nd time) financial documentation signed by SW, new (2nd time) living conditions documentation signed by SW, and yet another (our 3rd) update to our homestudy. And of course, all of this had to be notarized or certified and apostilled.

But no problems in court, so better that we learned of the extra paperwork ahead of time. I know that our coordinator was only a little worried about our court date, but was quite worried about the court date for another couple that was going to be arriving after us. Apparently they were assigned a different judge that was known to be balky.

Almost forgot. Was required to make a speech in court (~15 min long or so). Found out the day before, so spent most of the night writing/memorizing the speech. Was quite nervous.

Our adoption took place this past summer.
The speech was basically to outline why we felt we would be good parents, and it was suggested that we use facts from our dossier paperwork as a guide. So in addition to the "touchy-feely" stuff, we summarized our dossier (e.g., we have good secure jobs, earn a good salary and can provide a nice home for children; have a room already prepared; etc.)

The judge we had seemed like a nice guy and seemed to be quite good at his job--very thorough, came to court prepared with specific questions, and went through all of our paperwork carefully during court asking additional questions as he reviewed different documents(he was quite serious during court, but very pleasant when we bumped into him again outside the building). Our prosecuter was reputed to be tough, but again I found her to be thorough but fair. The additional paperwork that we had to submit apparently addressed most of her areas of concern.

So while it was a big pain in the neck to do (if we hadn't already met our very cute kids I would have given up when I got the LONG list of additional documents required), and contributed to our 5 month wait between trips, I'm glad we had the extra paperwork taken care of and didn't have to do the 4 trip plan like HardRegion2.”

“We have adopted twice from Volgograd. No extra paperwork during court. 10days not waived so we just got to know the city better. Babies are very well cared for. We love Volgograd.”

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Tuesday, July 19, 2005

Traveling Blind

It was lovely to speak with you on the phone today regarding traveling "Blind" to Russia.

As you know, we spoke about these risks regarding traveling blind:

1. Financial; if you don't locate a child, you will be responsible for all costs related to an additional trip to Russia.
2. Emotional; it is difficult to view various children then possibly "Turn them down." The process, as we spoke about, requires a visit to an orphanage to see one child, a decision, then a trip to the local Ministry of Education to officially accept or turn down that specific child before you see another.
3. You may come home with only one child, or no children, based on availability and your choices.
4. Availability and choices of children are in no way guaranteed.

As we spoke about today, you will find the release form you will need to sign before travel attached. Please review this as you make your decision. Also, I will ask you to sign this and speak with Eastern European Director, Debbie Taylor, before travel plans can commence.

We are here for you. If this fits your families needs at this time, we will support you as you travel. If you decide to remain in the "Hurry up and wait" period of the adoption journey and wait for pictures and medicals, we will support you in this decision as well.

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Saturday, April 30, 2005

Move Day




We have purchased a new home and moved in... More room for the children to play, now I suppose Beth will want that dog I promised her...

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Thursday, March 3, 2005

Paperwork to Volgograd

The region selected for our paperwork is Volgograd. It travels there soon.

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